The social changes of the last 40 years have left young people (and many older people) with lots of questions about relationship issues, and often a considerable amount of hurt because of unhealthy interactions. In their "The Hook Up" presentation (Thursday at 7:30 in Krikak Auditorium), Catharsis Productions will offer some ideas on approaching relationships in a healthy way.Please attend the presentation and/or read one of my online messages on relationship issues:
- Men, Women, and Other Mythological Creatures
- Love, Sex, and the Fragile Egos of Men.
- The Death of Love
The posted presentation transcripts are nearly 20 years old now. I prepared the original messages for students who would now be (probably) your parents' age. I am old....
I read the article called "Love, Sex, and the Fragile Egos of Men. This article talked about how men act the way they do because sometime in the past they were hurt by the women they loved. It tells a story how David finally got to marry Michal but then her dad took her away from him. David was obviously still in love with Michal and could not get over the fact that she was now with another man. David finally gets her back but it is to late for their love to last because David's ego was practically ruined when Michal left him the first time. What I got out of this article was that women are the reason why men are crazy and men are the reason women are crazy.
ReplyDelete-Holly Vancura
Yep.
DeleteGrowing up in a divorced household it always seemed like some kind of a myth, but I actually read this a couple of weeks ago and was kind of dumbfounded. Now it was believed by me that there is no "one" person for everyone. I assumed that you would meet someone and be with them until you were done being with them, get divorced, rinse wash repeat. It is just really nice to get another perspective to look at things through.
ReplyDeleteI read your article, "The Death of Love." From the date on top of the page, you wrote the article before I was even born. I can only imagine that what you talked about has gotten much, much worse since that time. I see exactly what you are talking about all around me every day. I see my friends "falling in love" with someone that they haven't even known for a week and then breaking up a few months later. Being in a relationship or saying you are in love doesn't really seem like that big of a deal to many people anymore because of this. I also see how hard it is on children when their mom and dad get a divorce just as you talked about. I remember many times when I was younger hearing people talk about how they worked through their problems so that they wouldn't have to hurt their kids. However, I really don't hear that very much anymore and see many people who have multiple kids getting divorces. It really is true that love is dying. However, I liked the way you ended the talk by saying that we are all loved equally by God.
ReplyDelete-Madison Fischer
Thanks, Madison.
ReplyDeleteI read the article "The Death of Love." I totally agree with you that divorce is a horrible thing. Growing up in a household that had parents that get along great and love each other and their children was amazing. It made me appreciate how lucky I was to have parents like that. On the other hand, I have a high school buddy whose parents are divorced. His life is such a struggle because he has to visit his parents in different towns all the time. Also he doesn't like his step-mom too much so he gets mistreated by her and he doesn't want to be home very often. I hear about this happening all the time now and its sad because some kids on get to feel the love from their parents that they should. I also agree with you that love is dying in our society now a days. I just hope that society realizes that and starts loving like they should.
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I read the article "Love, Sex, and the Fragile Egos of Men". I have to admit that I have never made the connection between the unfaithfulness in a broken marriage compared to our unfaithfulness towards God. It really puts things into perspective. And just like how a companionship between two people isn't always perfect, neither is our relationship with God. But the important thing is that we work through our issues with God's help so we can stay close to Him. And personally, it feels good to know that He is jealous for me. It's something I have to remind myself of frequently. I really appreciate that you posted this article!
ReplyDeleteThe article I chose to read was “The Death of Love,” and I completely agree with everything you said. Love seemingly is dying in modern America—everything from increasing divorce rates, pop culture music, and the lack of God in schools supports this notion. People today struggle to establish strong relationships because of the culture we live with, a culture that normalizes divorce, and supports music that is derogatory towards both sexes. You said it best when you stated, “that love, the love nothing can ever change, comes from God Himself. People need to know that love and embrace it.” If we can do this, I believe that we can raise love back up once again.
ReplyDeleteThe hook-up was very informative. It covered various situations from a good hook-up to rape. After attending, I feel like I know better what to do to help someone if I see or hear of them in danger. Also, it is quite terrifying that it is so easy for predators to live among us due to the language that we use.
ReplyDeleteI read "Love, Sex, and the Fragile Egos of Men." I thought the message was very interesting because I feel like it is very accurate and relates to the men of this generation. Many men really just want one woman, but they instead choose a different path and form casual relationships with multiple women. David would do anything to get his wife back, but he becomes very hurt and starts acting crazy when he finally has her back. Sex can be a very destructive aspect of a relationship and this is shown very clearly in David's case.
ReplyDeleteI read "The Death of Love" and find it to be particularly unique in that it challenges the family breaking up creates healthy spontaneity allowing to gather up themselves, uniting through others and their truths of marriage. I enjoyed that it is encouraging and contrasting for each other.
ReplyDeleteI attended the Hook Up presentation that was put on in Krikak. The presentation was very informative about many things. A main topic was the difference between male and female names when talking about being with many people. The names for the women were very negative, but the names for the males were very positive. It doesn't seem fair what society has done with this situation. This presentation was very interesting and very informative.
ReplyDeleteI read "The Death of Love." I find it as a very interesting read and agree to most of it! Although you state that you suspect that most people today would still say that love is the most important thing of all, I would have to disagree (looking at America's society). I just feel like love isn't important to most of us anymore, as would explain the high divorce rate. Personally I feel like as a whole in American society that this generation tends to focus on ourselves individually and we try to build our selves (financially, have a great job, emotionally, etc.) before we consider companionship or relationships. I also believe that the reason for more divorces is because in this generation we are taught we can have anything we want. I feel like we have this mind set that if we are not happy, we can just cop out by divorce, and find something better. But yet again, that's just my take on "The Death of Love."
ReplyDeleteI attended the "Hookup" presentation on Thursday night. In my opinion, it wasn't very good. No new information was presented. I am willing to bet that all or most of the people that attended didn't hear anything new. I felt as if everything was just said for no ultimate purpose. He didn't really have a direction he was going in. He mostly just talked about name calling and rape. I especially didn't like how the presenter talked about hookups being good. Hookups are never good. I don't know if he had any morals or just didn't care what others do but he shouldn't have been talking about hookups being healthy. I firmly believe there is no such thing as a good hookup. I think that the presentation could have been better than it was.
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I went to the "Hookup" presentation. Overall it was interesting but I knew most of the information he discussed. He was very funny and I did like that aspect. He discussed the different names women are called versus men and how it is a complement to men but degrading to women. That is something seen in society often. For all practical purposes it was interesting and fun but I didn't learn anything new.
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